Monday Musings ~ How To GROW Rather Than Shrink When Life Is Challenging You: Part One

Hi Beauty 🙂

Today let's explore some tools you can use to help ground and centre yourself when it feels like life is throwing you for a loop.

When everything is changing and you don't know where it's all going.

When it seems like everything is very perfectly falling apart, but nothing is actually coming together.

When you feel lost and directionless, when you know things need to change and shift but you have no idea how to shift and change those things.

When you feel terrified because it looks like your life is spiralling out of control - either in small or big ways.

When you are feeling tossed around by life, and are struggling to get your bearings. To find your centre. To make sense of it all. To not get totally swept away by your emotions, fears and anxieties.

Why Does This Happen Anyway?

You might be thinking something like the following in the middle of your life crisis - "Wouldn't it be so much nicer if life never threw me a curve ball? If I could see everything that was going to happen - and the consequences of it happening - before it happened? If I could ride a lovely wave of predictability? If I could 'arrive' at some idea place and then live there in the 'happily ever after?' IS THAT REALLY SO MUCH TO ASK?!

Mm. I hear you.

I hear you, and I've got some news for you - the above is never going to happen.

This is never going to happen, because life is interested in your growth.

In your expansion.

In your evolution.

Not your safety and comfort so much.

Not that life wants you to be in danger, so to speak.

Life Knows You Are Safe

It is just that the thing that you and life most certainly disagree on most is your level of safety. Your brain is most likely screaming at you all the time about how change is scary and how you are under constant attack and must be on the look out. You see ATTACK ATTACK ATTACK everywhere.

The guy who cut you off in traffic - attack.

The possibility that your partner may leave you - attack.

Your pant size being bigger than you want it to be - attack.

Showing up at the super market and your favourite brand of shampoo is gone - attack.

Life throwing you curve balls and challenging you - attack.

Again, this is in no way to trivialize your experience - if you feel this kind of low level fear and anxiety in your life most of the time, that gets super charged when things change or shift - your experience of that fear is totally and completely real. You aren't making it up. You feel it.

You feel unsafe and unprotected and like you are in danger of losing what you need, never getting what you need, or having something given to you that you don't want.

The only problem here is that Life sees your ultimate safety here.

Life does not agree with your fears, because it does not see your fears as you see them.

Life knows that nothing 'bad' can actually happen to you - just learning.

Life knows that at the end of the day, the only thing that can be damaged here in this life is your body. And that is disposable anyway. No one is getting out of here with their body, and besides, for the most part the body can heal.

Everything that is 'you' cannot be threatened.

Nothing can happen to your soul, your spirit, your essence. YOU as you actually are, are impervious to harm.

You may believe something has happened to you that caused irreparable damage - emotional abuse, trauma, painful experiences that left you totally and utterly questioning yourself and this world - and that stuff is to be loved and respected. The damage may not be 'real' but your experience of the damage is. Meaning you are not actually broken, but you are feeling that you are, and that feeling needs love.

But the ultimate reality is that whatever happened didn't actually touch YOU.

Not the you with the capitol Y.

YOU always have been and always will be a shining ray of Divine perfection. This is how you are seen at every level of consciousness above the fear based consciousness that is most prevalent on our planet right now.

All your broken, sad, shamed, scared, hurting parts just need love.

They are not evidence of anything having gone wrong with you.

Because nothing can go wrong with you.

Nothing permanent anyway.

So your safety is not of primary concern, because ultimately you are fully and totally safe. You are having an experience, but nothing can happen to you that could damage you in any permanent, real way. All that can happen here is learning, growth and expansion - either through contrast or via joy.

Your consciousness is benefiting from all of your experiences. This is a kind of virtual reality. You are experiencing it for real, but it is not in and of itself real. You will discover this more and more as you love those hurting and scared parts of yourself.

I would like to invite you to sit with this for a week, to really ponder these ideas and consider how they may be true for you in your life.

Next week we will carry on and get to some tools you can use to help you expand when life challenges you, rather than leaning on the tendency to contract and shrink.

<3