Last week I started exploring what the purpose of relationships is when we are learning to meet our own needs on our self love path.
This week I want to explore the idea of VALIDATION.
I'm going to explore the idea that we humans are ALWAYS going to seek some form of external validation - and why this isn't always a 'bad' thing.
I'm going to talk about the differences between healthy validation from others and unhealthy validation.
The times and places where we are going to sometimes NEED external validation before we can learn to really validate ourselves - and how we can USE the validation of others as a stepping stone on our self love path. I'm going to talk about what to do when you CAN'T get the external validation you need, and how I've personally navigated this. I'm going to talk about why consensus reality isn't 'good or bad' but rather how we can look at it as simply helpful or unhelpful.
I'm hoping that today I can help you expand beyond trying to do 'self love' or 'relationships' right - so can step into what this is all for - finding peace and freedom in life.
External validation isn't right or wrong. Wanting others love isn't right or wrong. There is no right or wrong way to be in relationships with others - it's all about RESULTS. Theories are only as good as the results they give us.
So how do we find good results in the context of validation?
Let's dive in and see.