When Community Makes Things WORSE Not Better

In this work of reclaiming our humanity, we talk a LOT about returning to a community mindset.

We talk about why finding a good, supportive community and getting OUT of the constant state of competition and individualism that our culture pushes on us is SO important, and all the ways finding community can help us heal from the damage of our systems.

A true connection with others, finding a group of people we can rely on and that can rely on us, working together and seeing others as part of our team vs. as means to an end as blocks on our path is a MASSIVE step towards reclamation of our humanity and towards creating systems that are really going to work for us long term.

That being said, we also want to acknowledge that not 'all' community is healthy, and not all community is going to lead to freedom.

The truth is, sometimes being in community in a way that leads to us being continually encouraged to go DEEPER into the system, that encourages us to be stuck in navel-gazing, in self blame, in trying to fix ourselves, in a state of blaming the outer world for being 'wrong' where we are 'right' and that functions with the same kinds of hierarchies that we see in the world today is actually going to keep us MORE stuck and LESS liberated.

Sometimes we have to admit that the communities we are in or have access to aren't actually helping us, and we have to learn to let those communities go - even being on our own for a while - until we can find better places to connect.

Today let's talk about the nuance of finding a community, where it can be helpful and where it can be harmful, and how to spot a community that's truly nourishing vs. a community that's just more of our systems.

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Remember, you don't have to do this self love path all alone.

Figuring out how to support ourselves, how to be on our own side, how to figure out what our emotions are saying, how to problem solve so we can build lives that work for us - it can be confusing.

That's why I've built the Mystery School - a three year self study program designed to take the guess-work out of this path, so you can start to really connect to who YOU are, what YOU need, and how to create a life that supports that.

It's a program designed to help you begin thinking in 'systems' so you can be a part of the positive change we need to see on this planet.

It's all about finding compassion and working with curiosity so we can understand ourselves and life in general better, and so we can use that understanding to create BETTER models for LIFE!

I’d love to have you as part of the community - remember we also meet as a group once a month for an exclusive live chat where we address whatever's most pertinent for everyone at the time. The course itself is self-paced so you can work through it at whatever speed works for you - starting whenever you like!

If you're interested, you can check out the school details here!