Many of us are waiting until we feel ‘really ready’ before we will start setting boundaries with the people we know we need to start setting boundaries with.
Many of us are waiting until we get our careers perfectly on track, until we find the partners of our dreams, until we feel like we are living a fully independent, fully put together life BEFORE we will start to ask our families for the space we need, before we will start to put up boundaries at our current job, before we will start to ask our current partners for what we really want and need - hoping that if we can get to a place where we feel like we don’t NEED anyone that THIS will give us permission to set the boundaries we know we need to set.
Many of us feel like we’re still too immature, not adult enough, not independent enough, not established enough or not secure in ourselves enough to be honest with those around us about what we want and need - and that we still need to ‘grow up’ a bit more before we will be ready.
Many of us have the misconception that we have to wait until we feel like a secure, confident, all-put-together full blown adult before we’re going to be ready to stand up for ourselves, set boundaries on our time and energy and before it will be ‘safe’ for us to ask for what we actually want and need.
And the problem is, that in this waiting, we actually PREVENT ourselves from ever GETTING to that place where we feel like that strong, capable, worthy adult.
Today we’re going to talk about why so much of the time getting to the place where we feel like that adult self who is able to set healthy boundaries requires that we actually DO the boundary setting - that the boundary setting is actually the PATH to this outcome, rather than being the final destination.
Let’s explore how the act of setting boundaries IS how we ‘get ready’ to be that adult we want to be, and how we can start to take the steps we need to take to get there instead of constantly waiting until we feel ready.
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