'If I love myself fully, does this mean I'll never need/want the love of someone else ever again?'
"If I become my own safe place, won't this mean I never feel like I HAVE to be loved/comforted/seen/validated by someone outside of myself?'
"Do we need BOTH self love AND external love?"
"If self love is all about creating inner safety, won't this mean that when I fully love myself I feel safe all the time, and thus never need anyone outside of myself to feel like I can be ok?"
Have you ever asked yourself the above questions?
Have you ever wondered if there's a difference between external and internal love? If they fill different roles or if they're interchangeable?
Have you ever wondered if there's ever 'healthy' need for external love, or if it's all lack of self love that leads to our desire for others to see and approve of us?
I want to dive into all of this today.
Let's take a step back and get clear on what self love is/is doing for us, what external love is/does for us, why our needs for love and approval go BEYOND just physical needs/safety needs and why self love/external love are deeply interconnected while also being two separate things that can't be substituted for one another.
Self love and external love can't be separated but they can be understood and approached from a pragmatic place.
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