Hello!
If we live our entire lives trying to 'arrive' at a certain place - thinking when we finally get the job, the relationship, the money, the house, the kids, the body the...fill in the blank... that we will finally be FULLY happy and satisfied FOREVER, chances are we'll always feel incomplete and disappointed.
It's true that a life spent chasing an 'after' is always going to feel like a let down - because no matter where we 'arrive', there's always going to be the NEXT place to reach for.
There's no 'getting there' in this life, in the sense that there's no ULTIMATE place where we can settle and have pure happiness for the rest of our time alive.
But at the same time, trying to swing the other way and say that there are NO 'there's' in this life that WILL increase our satisfaction, that WILL give us SOME happiness, that WILL improve our lives in a kind of permanent way - is also false.
To say that we should just 'continually enjoy the journey' with no 'attachment' to an outcome is essentially to tell people NOT to be people.
We're always going to have attachment. We're always going to have things we're striving for.
We're always going to seek satisfaction in this human experience.
The trick is the ride the middle way.
It seems that the true 'secret' to happiness is to expand to a place where we can hold BOTH realities as being true at the same time - that there's no ULTIMATE there so we must enjoy the journey, but there are a bunch of 'little there's' that are deeply important and that will give us a sense of purpose, joy and satisfaction to reach.
There's no THERE, but there are lots of little there's.
Appreciation for the journey without forward momentum leaves us feeling listless.
Goal orientation while losing the capacity to be in the moment leads to burn out and disillusionment.
A balance of both is a key.
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