Hello Love!
It seems to be that everyone, at some point or other, struggles with disliking parts of themselves.
Everyone seems to go through at least a phase of self loathing, or at least loathing a part of the self.
We all have our insecurities and those things that we can't seem to accept about ourselves - whether that be difficulty accepting parts of our personality, our bodies, our ways of thinking or acting.
The more we dig into this idea of self rejection, the more we can see that a LOT of the time, we were taught to hate ourselves. We were taught by society, by our caregivers, by our pain/pleasure signals that there were 'good and bad parts' - parts that got us acceptance and love and therefore made us feel safe, and parts that got us rejected and therefore made us feel insecure.
We LEARNED to hate ourselves, and so much of the self love journey is about 'returning' to a time before we learned that we were wrong/bad/shameful or to blame on some level.
This recognition can be really powerful as we realize that a lot of what we're hating about ourselves aren't actually 'bad' parts in actual reality - in the sense that in REAL reality they don't cause harm. The only reason we perceive them as 'bad' is because of how OTHERS have interacted with and perceived them. The only reason we don't like who we are is because it's been demonstrated to us that who we are makes people not like us - but in real reality, being how we are, we're still able to get our needs met and we're not causing ourselves or others pain.
With this can come the question - is self hate ALL a learned thing? Is self hate something that ONLY comes from consensus reality/those around us teaching us to hate ourselves via rejection/blame/shame/
Or is there any part of self rejection that would happen even WITHOUT the influence of other PEOPLE? If self hate is a man-made consensus reality issue - why did it even happen? Why did we start rejecting ourselves and others?
Is self hate natural? Is self hate or hatred of others something that was inevitable within the human race? Where did it come from? Why do we do it?
That's what I want to look at today.
Let's dive into the ROOTS of self hate so we can have a clearer view of what we're up against when it comes to learning to love ourselves.
Seeing where our self hate is a consensus issue and where it's something deeper and more internal is important when it comes to learning to love ourselves. Let's explore this together today.
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Ready to get off the 'self help' roller coaster?
Ready to stop fighting with parts of yourself?
Ready to finally understand that there was NEVER anything wrong with you?
Ready to let go of all the shame, blame, guilt and hopelessness stories that are keeping you trapped in a life that feels like it's for someone else and never for yourself?
Ready to learn how to SUPPORT all that you are, instead of trying to FIGHT to fit in?
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