Do you ever get the sense that if you could just 'fix' yourself that you would be able to create the perfect life for yourself?
That if you could just get rid of your coping mechanisms, tendency to be codependent/avoidant in relationships, 'bad' eating habits or your habit of procrastination that in THIS you would finally be able to realize all of your dreams and 'be the person you know you can be?'
Do you ever feel like you get 'triggered' into a self-improvement rabbit hole - getting into states where you decide enough is enough, you're going to change your life - finding that you have what seems like all the reasons and motivation in the WORLD to become the better version of yourself - only to end up losing momentum and 'falling back' in to old habits over and over again?
Do you have that one area of your life that you CONSTANTLY nit-pic/blame as being the reason you're not happy? Your body, money, relationship status, job or social life?
Do you have that one habit/way of being that you are CONVINCED that if you just 'fixed it' - that if you could stop watching too much Netflix, stop scrolling social media for hours, stop indulging in substances that don't make you feel good - that in this you would finally be free of all of your pain?
Do you have a tendency to go into self blame every time you experience something painful in your life? Feeling like if you could just figure out how what you experienced was your fault, that this would help you avoid having to experience that same pain again in the future?
Do you believe that most of your problems/pain are rooted in a flaw/failing within yourself that could be fixed by improving yourself?
If so, you're not alone. This is how *most* of us think, and it's part of the reason that the self help industry is a multi-billion dollar industry.
Today, we are going to explore the deep roots of WHY we believe that we can fix OURSELVES into a perfect life experience, why we believe that our pain is our fault on some level, why we scapegoat parts of ourselves, why we nit-pick and obsess about becoming 'a better version of ourselves' and how we can lovingly and gently find new ways of relating to our pain that will give us actual tools for feeling better.
Because the instinct to go into self blame is normal - but it's not actually the route to freedom.
Let's explore why together today, and see if we can find a new way of approaching pain that's more pragmatic and effective.
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