When we feel shame about something, for most of us, we are going to have a deep instinct to hide.
To cover up.
To try to fix ourselves, change ourselves or improve ourselves so that we won’t be ‘how we are’ anymore.
We’re going to go into loops of self blame - looking at all the reasons why we’re so horrible, why we’re to blame, why these ‘shameful parts’ are the reason we can’t be happy, can’t find love, can’t be safe, aren’t experiencing the lives we want to experience - and we’re likely going to believe that if we could just fix ourselves our whole lives would be better.
With all of this, there will likely be stories in our minds about how these shameful parts are the WORST thing ever, how they are truly a good reason for why we don’t deserve to be loved - and we are going to have a deep sense that if people were to ‘find out’ about these parts of us that this would surely lead to rejection and being alone forever.
And we will have lots of evidence to prove how this is true.
Today, we’re going to be talking about why learning to ‘expose’ our shame in a HEALTHY, loving, safe environment is actually be BEST thing we can do for ourselves if we want to be able to grow past our shame.
Why that instinct to hide is actually what’s keeping us STUCK in our shame - but why we don’t want to expose our shame to just anyone.
We’re going to explore why exposing your shame to love and compassion doesn’t mean that you will be giving yourself an ‘excuse’ to be horrible for the rest of your life, nor does it mean accepting that you will never change.
This is a deep topic with lots of nuance - so let’s take our time together today to explore and get clarity.
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