An Important Reminder

You are worthy of love and respect, just as you are, right here right now.

You are worthy of being loved, just as you are, right here right now.

The truth is, you are going to grow.

You are going to shift.

You are going to blossom in ways that you may not even be able to predict right now, and you are also going to change in ways that may be surprising to you.

Life is going to continue to offer up challenges, things you didn’t expect, dashed hopes, disappointments, losses and moments of pure confusion and lack of awareness.

Life is going to continue to offer up moments of blessing, moments of grace, moments of guidance and wisdom. Times where everything falls into place and it seems like we couldn’t have planned for all the ways in which life is blessing us.

We are going to experience loss that rocks us to our core and causes us to deeply question the meaning of life, who we are, what we’re doing and what we stand for.

We’re going to experience windfalls of grace that leave us speechless as to how we ended up in such a magical, beautiful, wonderful place.

We are going to have relationships that nourish us deeply, that awaken us to parts of ourselves we didn’t know were there or couldn’t access on our own. To experiences that we never would have had if we hadn't been exposed to these special people.

We are going to have relationships that bring up our past, that cause us to feel deeply unheard, unloved, inadequate, like we aren’t doing or being what we ‘should’ be doing or being.

We are going to experience all sorts of pain, all sorts of pleasure and all sorts of wonder and mystery.

Because this is what it is to be human.

This is what it is to be alive.

Eventually on this path of life, we are going to come to see that while we have *some* control over what happens to and for us, we don’t have total control.

That we have SOME agency, we have SOME capacity to steer the ship, we have SOME ability to do our inner work and our outer work in a way that allows us to create lives for ourselves that align with what we desire.

AND.

At the same time, we don’t have total control.

We don’t have ultimate control.

There will always be things that blind-side us.

There will always be ways in which others make choices that impact us in ways that we can’t predict or control.

There will always be circumstances that alter the way we think - that show us that perhaps we had things less figured out than we thought, that cause us to have to re-evaluate what we believed about ourselves and the world and that lead to a lot of fear and unknown.

Rather than attempting to change reality, rather than trying to figure out how to create perfect control or how to get ourselves into a state where we never suffer again through trying to perfect ourselves or control our world - we will learn the secret of true self love.

The secret formula that says ‘I am always worthy of love and safety.’

That states that ‘when I show up for myself within the circumstances that I’m in, when I acknowledge my pain for what it is, when I allow myself to feel my TRUE feelings of grief, sadness, hope, anger, fear, confusion, joy, expansion, attraction and repulsion - in this I learn how to navigate the complexity of reality, one step at a time.’

That tells us that when we stop trying to CONTROL and MICROMANAGE everything in order to avoid pain, that we are actually able to move THROUGH pain with curiosity.

That when we stop blaming ourselves for our pain, when we stop making our fault that we are in pain, and when we stop looking for the way to ‘perfect’ our lives - we actually find that we are able to feel what we really feel - and through that, to get true insight, awareness and steps.

We learn the secret of self love.

Which is that life will always just be steps.

Life will always just be showing up for who and what we are in the moment, starting with compassion for ourselves, allowing ourselves to feel how we feel, then getting curious about how we can best SUPPORT ourselves.

How we can best be on our own side, and then learn what we need to learn from THAT place.

This will then ripple out from us.

We will then become the kinds of people who can offer this same compassion and curiosity to others.

It will help us get off the ‘self improvement’ treadmill that goes nowhere, and onto a path where we understand that life is simply complex - yes - and that it’s just our job to show up for who and what we are in the moment, and to know that THIS is how we get the best results.

We won’t always be happy.

But we will be able to more deeply experience our happiness when it comes.

We will be better able to navigate the tough stuff when it arises.

We will be better supports for those around us.

We will have a better experience of the complexity - when we are able to ground into compassion and curiosity as our foundational strategy.

THIS is the secret of the self love path.

Life will keep being complex - and we will learn how to navigate it with more grace, joy and ease, through compassion and curiosity.

Because you are always worthy of love.

The love that makes you feel safe in and amongst the chaos.

You are always worthy of the question ‘what do I need to feel SUPPORTED right now, instead of the question ‘how can I FIX myself’ right now.

THIS is how self love transforms us.

One moment at a time.

Compassion and curiosity.

Can you open to this?

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