Along the self love path, we're going to come to the realization that our pain, our struggle and the ways we are coping with the pain and struggle in our lives aren't our fault.
That we are not flawed and broken when we scapegoat, numb, cope, stimulate ourselves, sabotage ourselves or otherwise feel like we can't keep up with what society is expecting of us.
We will also start to realize all the things about normal society and what we have to be and do on a daily basis to fit in and go along that feel really bad to us - and this heightened awareness may even lead us to a place where we find it really hard, or even impossible, to keep going.
We may start to see what an ideal life could look like - but then have NO idea how to create that or if it's even POSSIBLE to create that.
It's possible to get to a place on the self love path where we find ourselves in a situation where doing what we need to do to keep ourselves safe/to have enough starts to feel like an act of self betrayal. Where it starts to feel like pushing yourself to do what you need to do to survive in this world feels way too negative - which can lead to the feeling that the self love path is actually kind of self sabotaging.
If the self love path leads to a state where we are so aware of our true needs and wants, and how deeply these are being contradicted by what's required of us to function in society - how can this path be good?
What do we do if we find ourselves realizing that keeping on feels so bad that all we can think is that we will now have no way of supporting ourselves unless we abandon ourselves completely?
That's what I want to talk about today.
The reality is, most of us aren't going to be able to create an ideal situation for ourselves at this moment, and we are going to have to compromise in order to keep ourselves alive.
Let's talk about how to use our self love tools to help us navigate this complexity - realizing that there will never be a perfect but rather a slow progression towards better. Let's talk about how we can use our self love tools to help us recover from what we need to do that isn't ideal, and how to use them to continue walking towards BETTER without giving up on ourselves.
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Getting off of the self improvement path and onto the self love path is hard.
Because everywhere we look in society, we are TRAINED to be in a perpetual state of self improvement.
We're trained to be in a perpetual state of feeling like we aren't enough, like our pain is a reflection of something being 'wrong' with us, like if we are failing to live up to the expectations of those around us that this means that we are flawed, broken and messed up and we're trained to CONSTANTLY feel like we are lacking something - because this is what keeps our society functioning how it functions.
Learning to understand WHY we have the habits we have, why we self sabotage, scapegoat and numb, why we can't seem to 'get it together' in our relationships, health and careers, why we have emotions, why our thoughts don't seem to help us move forward and why we struggle so much to be nice to ourselves is a MASSIVE key to building a life that actually works for us.
Learning where we don't need fixing, healing or changing, but rather where we need SUPPORT, self awareness and tools to help us EXPRESS and GROW is even harder work.
This is why I created the Aliyah Mystery School.
The School is your one stop shop for exactly how to:
Be your own safe place - and why that matters
Learn how your body speaks so you can better support it
Learn how your emotions speak so you can use them as guidance
Learn how to problem solve so you don't feel like every challenge means that you're stuck or that you need someone to come tell you want to do
Determine for yourself what is and isn't working in your life - and how to change even when that means upsetting others or being different
Support yourself through feeling the pain of your past so that you can integrate and move forward
So much more!
This school contains all the tools you need to really get to KNOW yourself, so that you can figure out what you need to feel your best in any given time - step by step, in a methodical way.
If you resonate with the content around here, but you want something more organized, a clear map for how to get on the self love path and how it will change your life - this school is for you.
Below you can find a video showing you EXACTLY what's in the school and how it will support you on your quest to build a life that feels amazing for you
Check it out, and let me know what you think when you do!
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