Most of us truly believe that the only way to change is to force ourselves through shame, blame, guilt and reminding ourselves just how horrible we are.
Many of us really believe that if we were to show ourselves compassion, if we were to be nice to ourselves, if we were to slow down with the flagellation and to begin getting on our own sides and assuming innocence in ourselves - that this would lead to us fully ‘letting ourselves go’ in a way that would lead to massive harm.
Many of us fear that we would become narcissistic, that we would then succumb to all of our worst habits, that we would become lazy, sloppy, selfish and otherwise TERRIBLE if we were to try to give ourselves the benefit of the doubt.
Especially when we look at our coping mechanism, the way we self sabotage, the way our behaviors harm others and the way we seemingly ‘give in’ to addiction, laziness or lack of self discipline.
And this makes sense - the world is constantly telling us that the ONLY way to get better, is to ‘fix’ ourselves.
That the only way to achieve what we want to achieve and to become who we ‘really’ are, is to be as hard on ourselves as possible.
Most spirituality, self help and personal growth material is centered around the idea that we have ‘bad habits’ and ‘bad parts’ that just showed up on the scene in our adulthoods that we need to eradicate through white-knuckle effort.
Even if there is an acknowledgment that we may have learned to be how we are in our childhoods - there’s still an assumption that the solution revolves around techniques and tools that are there to ‘fix’ what’s broken about us.
The shame is deep in our culture, and it drives most of us to a place where we genuinely never actually make any progress in terms of true personal transformation or growth.
Today we are going to dive into why compassion actually leads to MORE change than shame and guilt ever will.
Why most spirituality, self help and personal growth tools don’t work long term, and why starting from the assumption that you’re broken is essentially a recipe for never becoming who you want to be.
Check out my video below and let me know what you think when you do!
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