Many of us come from families that don’t really ‘get us.’
Many of us grew up in households where we were the ‘scapegoat’ - the one that everyone blamed all the family issues on and the one that seemed to always have the finger of blame directed at them when anything went wrong.
Many of us grew up in situations where our emotional expression was shamed - where we were told that we were too much, that we expressed too much, that we needed too much and that this was a burden on the family.
Many of us experienced being raised in environments where there was an expectation on us all the time to be/do/act/express in certain ways that simply didn’t align with who we were - and rather than being supported in growing into what WE were, we were instead constantly invalidated and made to feel ‘wrong.’
Many of us grew up in a state where our caregivers simply weren’t able to meet our needs - and for a long time many of us blamed OURSELVES for this. Then, for a lot of us, we’ve learned to see our needs as legitimate and real - but we still feel like no matter how much we explain this to our caregivers, no matter how much we try to get them to see us and love us and support us in the ways we need to be supported - they are continually unable to do so.
Which leads us into a spiral of continually hoping that if we just explain ourselves enough, express ourselves without getting triggered, become calm enough and rational enough that one day they will SEE US for who and what we are, an will FINALLY be able to show up for us in the ways that we need.
Only to find that over and over again, we get disappointed. We get hurt. We get rejected.
Then rather than being able to accept this and move forward - we get stuck. We get stuck in the hope that they are going to ‘get it’ one day - and we get stuck constantly explaining ourselves and putting ourselves out there in a way that leads to us being harmed.
Today we are going to talk about why letting go of the hope that our caregivers will ever be able to fully see, know, understand and provide what we need for us is SO hard, why we continue to fight for the hope of being seen and understood even in the face of all the evidence that tells us it’s likely never going to happen, and how we can start to move towards letting go even when that feels impossible.
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