Monday Musings ~ It’s Ok To Feel Like You Can’t Relate Anymore

Hello Beautiful.

Today I want to talk about something that I think is often overlooked on this whole 'spiritual journey' or 'personal development journey'. It is a topic that has been coming up a lot for me in my life lately, and so is something that I will be exploring within myself as I type this and share it with you. I have not necessarily come to any kind of 'landing' point with it - meaning I am not at any resolution - and I think that in this middle ground where we can explore and journey together there is great benefit for everyone.  We can process this together 🙂

Stepping Out Of The Ordinary:

As I am sure many of you are aware, I do not lead what one could call a 'normal' life. I have dedicated myself to awakening, to expansion, to personal growth and becoming all that I am destined to become. If you are hanging around here and if you enjoy any of the content I have to share, I am willing to bet you are on a similar journey.

You most likely have a deep desire to reach greater heights in life, to have more than mundane experiences. You have dreams and goals and aspirations. You have states of being you want to feel and live in. You have services that you want to offer the world, and in that you know the type of person you must 'become' in order to be capable of offering said services.

But.

You also love people.

You want to connect with others, to feel like you are seeing and being seen.

You see the plight and struggles that others are having - ones that you have had or are just on the tail end of coming out of yourself, and you want to serve the ending of that suffering in others.

You have taken many personal journeys, and in many ways you are not the person you used to be. You are not struggling with what you used to struggle with. You are not, in a sense, really struggling with what others are struggling with anymore.

You see a new life, a new kind of existence beyond that struggle that for so long was so all consuming, and you are starting to live that life. You are starting to have those experiences. You are starting to see things in a new way, to feel things in a new way. You are starting to value different things, to have different interests. Different things that call to you.

The things you struggle with now, are starting to be things that those who are in your circle don't really understand. They are not seeing what you are seeing. They are not seeing the world how you see it. They are not seeing the possibilities as you are seeing them.

You Feel High And Low

You feel all at once totally sure that you are doing exactly what you need to be doing, you feel like you are making massive progress on your path and are finding out who and what you really are, and at the same time you are questioning if you may just be crazy.

You are feeling so joyful in your moments alone. You are seeing your life come together in ways you never dreamed possible.

And you are losing touch with everyone else. You are feeling like you can relate less and less. You are feeling like sharing what is going on with you only serves to make those around you feel isolated. Or guilty. Or shamed.

You want to share all your insights and experiences, but at the same time you feel scared to do so, because the reactions you have been getting are not excitement with you. Or for you. You are met more with either blank stares or negative emotion.

So you feel stuck.

You want to continue on your climb. To keep moving towards the life you know you were meant to live. You want to keep having the ecstatic experiences. You want to keep developing the insights. You want to keep seeing truth and experiencing life for what it really is.

And at the same time you want to connect with people. You want to bring them along. You want to see everyone have these experiences along with you. You want to relate. You don't want to make people feel badly about themselves because they are not where you are.

In short, you want to transcend the average, but you also feel like you want to serve humanity in some way.

You want to be different, to be uniquely you, you want to have an extraordinary life. Without leaving anyone in the dust.

So you oscillate.

You doubt yourself.

You have days of bliss, followed by days in the pits.

You struggle in social situations. You are not sure what to share. You feel like you 'crash' back to 'reality' often, just to go back into orbit, followed by another crash, another launch.

This is where the rubber meets the road.

How To Keep Going, Because You Should Keep Going

Here is what I am learning through this experience:

There Is No Such Thing As Leaving People Behind: Those who are ready to take the journey out of the drama of life are going to do it. They are going to do it even if everyone around them is telling them not to. Those who are going to heal, are going to heal even in the face of massive obstacle. Those who are not going to heal, are not going to heal, even in the face of all the help in the entire world. Those who are meant to transcend are going to, with or without your intervention. Those who are not ready right now are not going to, with or without your intervention. Meaning you can't make anyone go on this journey if they are not already going. You can't stop anyones progress by going out to far ahead of them. So to halt your own progress, and wait for others to catch up is silly. You cannot leave anyone behind. If they are coming, they are coming. If they are staying, they are staying.

You Being Where You Are, Is The Best Thing You Can Do For Everyone: For those who ARE going to be inspired by your journey, the best thing you can do for them is to be on it. The most important thing you can do for others, is to BE the example. Do not stay at the bottom of the mountain and tell everyone about what the journey to the top is going to be like. Just climb. Show them. Be at the top. THIS is your most valuable piece of sharing. SHOW people that when you step out of the mundane life that you don't die. That you don't end up a poor, begging hippy on the streets. Show people. Do it. Live it. Be it. This is absolutly the most powerful thing you can do for everyone. And again, those who are going, will be inspired by you. Those who were never going in the first place, were never going. And that is OK.

It Is OK Not To Relate Anymore: It is ok to allow yourself to transcend so far that you forget what it was like to be where lots of people are. This does not make you heartless or mean or neglectful or any of the other things that your ego may be telling you it makes you. No. That voice is just fear. Love that voice. Soothe that voice. But know that that voice is full of absolute shit. Read the other two points over and over again until you believe it. Take the steps forward your soul is calling you to take, and know that if you lose your sense of relation, that is OK. You will be called into the lives of those who are on a similar path to you, and you will relate with THOSE people. It is not your job to relate to everyone all the time. So be where you are, and forget if you forget. That is totally OK.

Release Your Judgements Of Others: Finally, realize that by wanting others to be where they are not, by saying that they should be transcending too, by saying that you have to wait for them to get it, you are essentially judging people around you. You are saying that you know their path better than they do. It is true that you may see their pain and feel like they could stop being in that pain if they just 'saw' what you saw - but the fact is, they don't. And that is not wrong. Allow yourself to get to a place where you see that everyone is exactly where they are supposed to be, and those who are not moving forward are not making a mistake. They are not missing it. They are not doing anything wrong. They are doing their exact right path. So let them. Love them in their path just as you would want them to love you in yours. No one has fucked it up. They are exactly where they are supposed to be.

You do not have to stand at the bottom of the mountain until everyone is ready to climb up.

If you are ready, do it. THIS is the most powerful thing you can do to encourage all those you love to do it to.

Show that it is magical. Show that it is wonderful. Show that it is safe.

Love everyone for where they are at, and know that your path is really the only one you need to concern yourself with.

Be on your path. Let everyone else do their thing.

If you stop relating, stop relating.

All my love.

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