Hello!
In the spirituality/self help world, we are often taught that to be a truly 'good' person, means to be able to 'rise above' the negative actions of others.
We are taught that truly spiritual people always see the good in others, always give them the benefit of the doubt and always 'choose love' in the face of any harm or perceived slight.
In spiritual and self help circles alike, we are taught that 'hurt people hurt people' and that this means that we shouldn't judge others for their poor or hurtful behavior, but that instead we should love them, make room for them, have compassion for them and see them at their best - even when they are acting at the worst.
This is all lovely in theory, and of course the world would be a very different place if we all acted towards harmful people with love and compassion instead of harsh judgement, rejection or punishment - as is mostly the case on our planet right now.
BUT.
There is a line that can easily be crossed here. A line that takes us OUT of actually loving/supportive behavior and into a state where we are simply perpetuating harm and making ourselves martyrs for a cause that isn't ever going to come to fruition.
There is such a thing as TOO much self sacrifice in the hopes that this will bring 'healing' to another - and there is a such thing as over-extending empathy in a way that leads to more harm not less.
Today I want to talk about why it's not your job to love harmful people into healing, why you feeling that if you just give a little more, show more compassion, extend more grace - even when another person has proven over and over again that they are just going to take that kindness and run with it - isn't actually a healing act, but is in fact colluding with harm.
I want to talk about the line between being a safe space for someone and allowing someone to be a deeply unsafe space for YOU - and why we don't want to cross this line.
There is such a thing as too much empathy leading to more harm than good - let's talk about the nuance of this today.
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