Hello Love!
The world we live in is imperfect.
When we're on our self love path, we will be coming into clearer and clearer awareness of what we need at any given time.
We will start seeing why we're in pain and needing to cope and self sabotage, being able to shift from seeing ourselves as broken and in need of discipline, to seeing ourselves as people who aren't getting our needs met properly and are therefore coping in some way.
We're going to start to see more and more WHY we do the things we do, and will get more and more information over time about what we ACTUALLY need and how to actually get those needs MET in real reality. We will see all the ways our needs went unmet/were misunderstood and in THIS we will find lots of empowerment to change our lives in positive ways.
AND.
There are also going to be times when we recognize a need or a want that we CAN'T meet in real reality.
There are going to be times when we simply don't have access to the things we know would make us feel better, that would support our growth and that would help us evolve and expand. When we can't meet the needs we have on our own and don't have someone around to support us. When the steps we need to take to work towards building a life that works for us aren't available, and when the things we have to do in the moment are inherently harmful in some way or other - but it's what we have to do right now to survive.
Today I want to talk about the very real world reality of meeting our needs, seeing needs we know we can't meet, seeing needs we don't know how to meet, seeing needs we can't meet on our own and having to work through times when we have to do things that are painful, but necessary in the moment.
We're not always going to be able to get our needs met even when we're totally self aware and being as empowered as possible. Let's explore what to do when this is the case, so we have tools for the real world.
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I have been blaming myself for my pain for three years and 3 and a half months….there has been ebb and flow to make life possible, but in many ways I have not been LIVING. A break through this week! So many “small steps” have gone into this release of emotion and thought. I have never stopped seeking information and processing emotion on this child bereavement grief journey. I am so grateful for many people…I have met others with love, compassion and curiosity. I have prefaced many encounters with knowing we are all doing the best we can. Aliyah you have certainly played a supportive role for me….I call you my wisdom person. You are on my team. I am not alone. Thank you my friend for being on the journey?.
You are not alone, and you are not to blame my friend. I know sometimes it feels like empowerment to blame ourselves – if it was our fault, maybe we could prevent the pain from happening again in the future – that’s really at the root of self blame. Remember, you are innocent and YOU have always done the best you could with what you knew. YOU are always doing the best you can. You are not guilty or shameful. When we learn, this doesn’t mean we already should have known. I am fully on your side and seeing you in your light, always <3