In the self help, spirituality and personal growth world, there is a lot of shame and guilt thrown around when it comes to the realization that we may be a ‘people pleaser.’
We receive so many messages from influencers and healers on a regular basis that tell us that if we are exhibiting signs of ‘people pleasing’ that this means that we have poor boundaries, that we don’t really love ourselves, that we are desperate for love and that we need to fix/change ourselves.
From what I’ve observed, there tends to be a general lack of empathy and compassion around the idea that we may be living for the approval of others - and instead there is this rush to get to the ‘how to stop being this way’ end goal state.
There is also a general lack of awareness of the actual IMPACT that being a people pleaser can have on us and our lives - meaning that many of us are experiencing the ‘symptoms’ of being a people pleaser but we don’t KNOW that this is what we’re dealing with, so again we just think we’re flawed or broken in some way.
Thus, today I want to explore all of this.
I want to break down all the subtle ways that people pleasing can show up, and I want to go deep into what may have caused us to develop our people pleasing behaviors so that we can have more compassion for ourselves.
Learning to step out of people pleasing behavior is NOT easy - and it’s something that is going to take a lot of time, care and attention - but it can be done.
Let’s explore this together today.
<3
Want more tools like this?
Check out The Mystery School Here
