Hello My Love!
Boundaries are an incredibly popular subject in the personal growth/spirituality/self help worlds right now - and this is for good reason.
Most of us have never been taught how to set healthy boundaries in our relationships - our relationships with other people, with ourselves, with work, with our bodies, with entertainment - with anything that we engage with on a regular basis.
Most of us exist somewhere on the spectrum of being WWAAAYY too open with our boundaries, erring towards people pleasing/self destruction in terms of over indulgence in things that cause us harm or being way too closed/guarded and thus not being able to experience the kind of intimacy and enjoyment we crave deep down.
Many of us feel guilty for setting boundaries, or we simply don't know where we SHOULD be setting boundaries - we can't tell the difference between a healthy boundary and being closed off.
Many of us have experienced negative backlash in any attempt we've made to set a boundary. We've found that us trying to ask for what we want and need only leads to those around us being upset and this triggers us into feeling like we're going to be abandoned/unsafe - leading us to release the boundary to keep the peace. We find that when we try to set boundaries with ourselves and the activities we engage in, again there's a kind of inner rebellion that happens that drives us to engage even MORE in what we were trying to reduce in our experience.
Many of us struggle with whether we're really setting a healthy boundary, or if we're running away/shutting down/not facing our issues. We can't tell the difference between a mature boundary and an immature cutting someone or something off.
Let's talk about and sort through all of this today.
Boundary setting isn't a 'one two three' process, and each situation and relationship is going to require it's own set of custom boundaries. Today I will give you a process for helping yourself determine where your boundaries need to be, to help you try ON a boundary to see how it feels, and to help you move THROUGH the initial discomfort that usually comes with boundary setting so you can work WITH reality in the ever evolving forms your boundaries will take.
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The Aliyah Mystery School is all about showing you that you’ve never been broken and that you’ve never needed to fix yourself.
This school is the antidote to the ‘self help’ and ‘self improvement’ world that’s constantly telling you that the reason you don’t feel good is because of some fatal flaw in YOU that must be fixed.
This school is the antidote to a WORLD that has conditioned you to believe that fitting into the mold is the way to feel good - and it’s about helping you see beyond the lies of our culture that are more toxic than they are productive.
This school is about connecting back to yourself, but also to connecting to the greater feeling of being unconditionally loved.
This school is all about walking you through a step by step program to help you support and express yourself - so that you can create a life that truly works for you.
You’re not broken. There are no bad parts of you.
Your body, your emotions, your spirit and your mind all need to be UNDERSTOOD - and then given the SUPPORT they need to grow and thrive.
THIS is what this school is all about.
This month I’m adding a FOURTH curriculum, designed to take the work in the first three even deeper.
Check out the link here for more information.
