Hello Friend 🙂 In my last post, I shared a little about resistance, and how it can show up in your life. Essentially, resistance is your reaction to life when you do not believe that life is going to move you in a desirable direction.
Resistance is the manifestation of your fear that if your life changes from what you are currently experiencing – even if what you are currently experiencing is not very pleasant – that the changes will make your life worse, causing you to push back against the flow of events currently taking place in your life.
When you are in a state of resistance, you most likely feel that life is hard. You may feel that things do not go your way. You may feel that you must push, struggle and fight to get things done. You may find yourself frustrated, feeling as though you are swimming up stream.
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You may deal with things like anger, depression, anxiety, irrational fears, addiction to substance, addiction to distractions like T.V, Sports, Gossip, Partying and you may have a deep fear of being alone. Resistance does not sound like all that much fun now does it? Essentially, resistance is fear. Fear that life is not safe, fear that you are not safe, fear that change is scary and fear that you wont have what you need and want. Resistance is fear.
How Do You Get Out Of Resistance?
Due to the fact that the true root of resistance is fear, we know that the best way to move out of fear is to move into a state of love. Many people believe that the opposite of love is hate, but in fact the opposite state to love is actually fear.
Love is expansive. Fear is contracting.
Love fosters growth. Fear fosters a shut down of all growth.
Love is trusting. Fear does not trust.
Love feels free and light. Fear feels heavy and constrictive.
Love is flow. Fear is resistance.
You Must Become Something, Rather Than Becoming Not Something:
The first concept to grasp when you want to move towards a life of love and flow is that you cannot become ‘not’ something.
There fore you cannot simply ‘stop’ living in resistance. You must start living in some other way that replaces your state of resistance.
You must always become something new in order to release the old. That is why focusing on all the new healthy foods you are going to be adding into your diet is a much more sustainable approach to getting healthy, than starting with eliminating foods from your diet. 
In order to help you move from a state of resistance into a state of love, I have designed an exercise for you to try.
Self Love Worksheet:
I invite you to get a note pad and paper out so you can record a few things. Divide your page into 4 coulombs before you begin.
Step One: Identifying The Areas Of Resistance:
First, I invite you to simply bring to mind the places where you experience resistance during your day (remember how resistance manifests as tension, stress, anger, anxiety, addiction and fear).
- Do you hate Sunday nights because you know you are going to have to go to work the next day?
- Do you struggle to have a nice relationship with your children, tending to fight or otherwise have negative interactions with them more often than positive ones?
- Do you dread going to school?
- Do you jump from diet to diet, always feeling like you have weak will power because you just can’t seem to make healthy eating work?
Where are the areas of tension in your life? Where do you most associate your negative feelings when you think of your day-to-day life? Take what you have noticed, and write it down as a list on the left hand side of your page.
Step Two: Identify Your Reactions To This Resistance:
Next, as you start to notice the areas where there is tension in your life, I invite you now to contemplate how you generally react and act in relation to those circumstances.
- Do you tend to fight with your co-workers often in order to get things done?
- Do you yell at your children or scold them on a daily basis?
- Do you snack all day in class to try to make yourself feel better?
- Do you look at your body in the mirror and pinch your fat? Wear clothes that hide your figure? Avoid social situations?
Write your physical and verbal reactions to your tensions in the centre left hand coulomb of your page.
Step Three: Identify Your Emotional Reactions To Resistance:
Next, I want you to take notice of your emotional and mental reactions to your current resistance filled stations.
- When you are at work, is your main emotion anger? Rage? Are you constantly frustrated and fed up with those you work with – never seeming to be able to see eye to eye? Do you then be-rate yourself for feeling so angry? Do you judge yourself for not being able to get along?
- What is your most common emotional reaction to your children? Do you experience guilt? Anger? Perhaps you feel that you are not being heard or respected?
- When you are in class, are you experiencing anxieties? Are you constantly worrying about the next test, the next assignment? Are you focusing on the social dynamics and feeling like you do not measure up or belong?
- Do you feel a sense of hopelessness when it comes to your body or your weight? Do you hate looking at yourself in the mirror? Feel dread when you step on the scale? Feel out of control with food?
Write down your emotional responses to your areas of tension in the centre right hand coulomb.
Step 4: Where Do You Feel This Resistance In Your Body?
From here, I want you to imagine yourself in each one of your resistant situations. Really allow your mind to pain a picture of yourself at work, or at school, or standing in front of a mirror. Allow your thoughts and feelings to surface first. Then allow yourself to notice your emotional reactions to the situation. Really take a moment to create that emotional reaction that you always have when faced with your situation. As you feel that emotion, I invite you to identify where it is manifesting in your body:
- Is there tightness in your chest?
- Does your stomach flip and flop over?
- Do you notice your shoulders hunching up around your ears?
Feel the emotion until you can easily identify where it is living in your body. Record in the far right hand side of your page where you feel the emotion in your body, and exactly how it feels.
Your Body Is Your Guide Back To Flow:
You may be wondering what the purpose of that whole exercise was. How does figuring out where your body holds tension help you to move out of a state of resistance and back into a state of flow?
Like I said at the beginning of this article, resistance is simply a sign that you are currently living in a state of fear rather than a state of love.
Your body is designed to lead and guide you through your life via your senses. Thus, it is designed to feel. Just as it is designed to warn you with pain when you put your hand on something that is too hot and will cause cellular damage, it is designed to alert you with uncomfortable and even painful sensations when you are in a state that is unnatural to your being.
Fear, is in essence and unnatural state of being.
You are designed to operate in a state of love, a state of peace, a state of knowing. That is why we tend to reject uncomfortable or fearful situations. Sure, you may enjoy a good horror movie or haunted house – but those are more forms of thrill, states that make you feel extra alive, rather than true fear. True fear – when you are distrusting the flow of the universe - is out of alignment with who you are. For more on this, I highly recommend you watch Dr. Lipton’s Lecture Here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WnmaiWWZ3fc Your body is going to let you know when you are out of alignment by creating the sensations you identified in the exercise above.
Coming Back To Love:
Now that you have identified what it feels like when your body is letting you know that you are in resistance, you have some power to start making some shifts in your life. Next time you feel your resistance feeling in your body, here is what I invite you to do:
- Thank your body: For letting you know that you are in a state of resistance. It is doing its job. Rather than getting upset with your body or trying to ignore the feeling, acknowledge it as essential guidance for you.
- Pause for a moment: Even if this means excusing yourself and going to the bathroom or somewhere you can be in your own energy for a moment. Take a palpable break.
- Close your eyes: Tune into the feeling in your body, then place your hands over the area where you are feeling your sensation.
- Send your breath first to this area: Create space around your area of resistance. Again allowing it to be, and creating space for it.
- Send Love and Compassion: Next, send love and compassion right into your area of resistance. See if you can imagine a white or golden light radiating from your hands into your area of resistance. If that is too much for you, you can simply imagine that you are sending warmth there, or just think loving thoughts in your mind.
- Stay here until you feel a release: It may be very subtle, so don’t expect anything huge to happen. Just keep sending yourself love until you feel a shift.
As you do this practice – you are literally training yourself to move into love when you feel yourself slipping into a state of fear or resistance. Using your body as a tool, you can now easily identify when you are in resistance, and you have a visualization to move yourself energetically into love.
This self-love and self-compassion in the face of fear and resistance is most likely the opposite of how you usually react in this space. There is a good change that when you are in resistance you are spending time beating yourself up, finding flaws in yourself or others, feeling self conscious or less than and worrying about what others are thinking of you. All of these reactions actually perpetuate your fear and keep you in resistance.
By actively moving towards love, you break the cycle.
This may not seem like much. You may feel like you need to quit your job or leave your husband or go on another diet in order to really make any movements away from a life of resistance, but this is generally not the case. Doing those things may help – but only if you are in alignment with love, moving towards what you know is right and best for you. If you are simply moving away from fear with more fear – you will most likely end up in a slightly different circumstance with the exact same underlying thoughts and feelings. 
Practicing this love vibration in the middle of fear is what is going to gently, easily, and practically move you into your natural state. If you have not already done so, I encourage you to read This Post and This Post on vibration and why it matters. Doing this practice over and over until love starts to become your most common vibrational state will help you to shift the things in your life to align with your new love based vibration – but at a pace and speed that will feel good. You will notice that you experience little insights, little pockets of inspiration. You will have new ideas that take you down new paths. Commit to this practice, and I guarantee that eventually your life will totally transform before your eyes. 
So what do you think? Are you going to give this practice a go? Sending all my love. <3
