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Now let's wrap this bad boy up, shall we?
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Acceptance:
Acceptance means allowing for what happened to have been true, getting the information from it (what was life generating and what was destructive.) Acceptance doesn't mean NO CHANGE. That we must allow things to stay as they are. We accept rather, that what happened was in alignment with reality - the outcome we got is the outcome we should expect from the actions taken by ourselves or others - and thus if we want something DIFFERENT it's about understanding WHY what happened, happened, and then how to create what we desire within the structure, that we now understand BETTER.
Acceptance does NOT mean we LIKE what happened. It doesn't mean we say it's ok. It doesn't mean we accept that it's how things SHOULD be forever. It doesn't mean that we surrender to it. Rather it just means that we are leaning in to what happened so we can better UNDERSTAND why what hurt, hurt, why what worked, worked, why what we thought should have happened didn't and why what we didn't expect did - and then we work to change our ways of being so that we can get different outcomes where that's desired.
In acceptance we lower our resistance to LEARNING from our experiences. We make what happened 'right' in the sense that what happened followed the pattern of reality. So what did this show us about the pattern, that we can then USE to our ADVANTAGE?
The more we understand the structure, the more freedom we have to create within it. The more we ACCEPT what is, the more we can UNDERSTAND what is, and the more we can create NEWNESS! At the same time, the more we accept the more we can let ourselves off the hook where we are not the cause of pain/chaos, and the more we can find true solutions or at least self soothing rather than going into shame, blame and guilt.
We then get to choose if we are going to use that information to keep growing or keep denying ourselves growth as adults who no longer require acceptance for survival.
This is de-conditioning. Letting yourself accept all that happened to you and embracing all parts of yourself with unconditional presence. Relaxation. Opening to the awareness. Letting go of the antagonism stories to discover the life generating truth that was always there.
This is scary because it rocks your foundations for how you have been making choices in your life. It's a letting go of what you thought you knew - to exist in not knowing - to eventually see truth. We all fear that not knowing phase so most never grow up/wake up because we'd rather stay thinking we know - even if what we know is deeply painful - that be in not knowing. We confuse not knowing with not existing.
When we love ourselves, we deactivate our nervous systems and this allows us to expand our perception and perspective. To allow all the information that's stuck in our being to flow and integrate/inform our cells. This is what epiphany/channelling/realization is. You relaxing the resistance you have to the information stored in your cells from experiences you've had but didn't integrate.
That were labeled as WRONG instead of labelled as MISUNDERSTOOD/contradicting what you THOUGHT reality was. Everything happened FOR A REASON - ie. followed the STRUCTURE and PATTERN of this reality. If it's not what you want, learn WHY it was that way - learn the mechanism and structure - then you can CHOOSE to create something DIFFERENT WITHIN THE STRUCTURE. Or choose to SUPPORT yourself however you can, and to look for support from your community in the areas where you can't change the structure of what's happening.
We have sparks of awareness when we relax because this allows us to INTEGRATE what happened to us. That's why we all say we 'remember' when we finally become aware of something. It was in our being as raw energy/information. We opened to it, if got to flow and inform, then we knew it. We stopped judging and in that we learned. This doesn't mean we have to keep repeating ourselves, this means we can finally STOP repeating ourselves! Acceptance is the KEY to change!
Then we have to act. To walk it out the new information. To test the new way of being that usually contradicts our conditioning. This is scary for the nervous system. Its a messy process. But it's the growing up and awakening process.
Feeling - fear - letting go of paradigms - not knowing - relaxing - mobilization of information - presence with traumatized parts - awareness - new, evolved action based on integrated information.
Combined with the fact that you're constantly taking in new information through each experience and the fact that each part of you is constantly wanting to grow!
This is retraining your nervous system.
Feeling the fear of living what you now know that contradicts your conditioning and doing it anyway. Proving reality to yourself through experience.
Waking Up:
Waking up = growing up = coming into deeper and deeper awareness of connection/the lack of antagonism/the fact that we are acting antagonism out with our creative minds but seeing that it isn't actually 'real'.
We then accept all that is in order to learn from it, and ultimately realize we are here to express ourselves through having experience and growing the seeds of what we are.
That as we do this we 'are of service to the whole' simply by adding to awareness and growing that which our consciousness has control over - ourselves.
We understand that we are a part of a community - that we are inherently connected and that separation is what's causing us so much of our pain - that finding our truth and identity isn't about REMOVING ourselves from the whole but understanding our place within it.
It means waking up to our HUMANITY - our feelings, emotions and bodies - and the reality that the competition and domination model of our current society is what's causing a LOT of us MOST of our pain.
It means realizing that shame, guilt and blame are ALWAYS lies, and that there's always more to the picture that needs to be loved and understood.
We don't have to figure out how to serve, or humble ourselves to be of service. We BE ourselves - like a tree or a bee - and in THAT we NATURALLY fill our role.
We can't grow others or destroy others. There isn't right or wrong. Just choice. All choice generates awareness.
Eventually destruction = recycling. We can create what's never been through evolving what is.
Integration is acceptance and that leads to more creative choice, not less. The more of the structure you understand the mare creative freedom you have.
There is only God in you.
Childlike curiosity isn't childlike - it's human nature not in trauma.
There is no higher or lower self - only parts that are growing and parts being cut off from growth. Not knowing isn't death, and death isn't death. Its all a phase in life thats always changing in an upwards direction of a downwards direction. Pain and pleasure show us which direction we are moving in. Both are cool, you get to choose. Both add to life, ultimately.
So to sum up:
You do you.
Thats what the masters all said in a nut shell.
Now I would love your thoughts!
How did all this feel for you?<3
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