Morality Is One Of The BIGGEST Lies Of ‘The Matrix’

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In case you missed it, you can read Part One of this post here!

Now let's continue our exploration on what it means to 'exit the 'Matrix'.

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The Matrix Has Multiple Layers Of Complexity:

From here we must understand that all of this comes with layers upon layers of complexity. There isn’t ‘one’ misunderstanding about ourselves and reality that we all share and must overcome. There isn’t a common narrative about what is and isn’t of value that is shared among all people that keep our power structures functioning. There isn’t a cohesive ‘Matrix’ that we all share, that affects all of us equally, that is agreed upon.

Rather there are a few BASE ASSUMPTIONS that are out of synch with reality that have created all the offshoots of 'the Matrix' we now see in the world today.

To believe that we are fundamentally flawed, to believe that we are separate from one another and nature and to believe that some life is more worthy than other life - THESE are the foundations of The Matrix.

Remember, The Matrix is ultimately us building systems that don't align with real reality, and there are SO many things we don’t even know that we don’t know about how life works.

There are so many different versions of ‘right and wrong’ that we can be exposed to and many of these ideas conflict with one another. This is due to us trying to figure out how to live in a way that will give us the MOST pleasure with the least amount of pain without understanding the greater picture of how reality unfolds - thus causing us to make up rules that have nothing to do with real reality - and because we aren't yet willing to accept that some suffering can't be avoided/isn't caused by us.

As we’re growing up, we’re exposed to an innumerable number of ideas and ideals. We’re groomed from the moment we’re born to fit into the culture that we were born into - our family culture, the culture of our neighborhoods, the culture of our generation, the culture of our country - and SO much of this we take in as ‘inherent truth’ - because how could we not!? It’s what we’re being shown the world IS.

There would be no way for us to neutrally perceive ALL of the ways of life and ALL of the different ideas about what is and isn’t good and then from a position of complete awareness choose what was and wasn’t the most pragmatic ideas to build our lives around. There would be no way of understanding that what we were being shown as ‘the way’ was just ‘a way’ - because again that would require access to information outside of our spheres of influence and an awareness that our sphere of influence wasn’t the arbiter of ultimate truth. 

This could never happen, because we fully depended upon those in our sphere of influence for survival. We had to fit into the cultures of our families, communities and country in order to make it through our childhoods. This was also the ONLY information we had access to. We HAD to accept what we were being shown as ‘the way’ to live as TRUTH with a capitol T - if for no other reason than if we didn’t, we wouldn’t behave in accordance with those cultures, and in that we would have been rejected by those around us and left to fend for ourselves - a task we couldn’t successfully manage. We didn't have other options, and we didn't KNOW other options existed. These rules were then built into our BIOLOGY as being 'safe' - the way to get our needs met - and thus we were programmed from the very beginning to live in specific ways that we would then unconsciously favor, for the rest of our lives or until we started doing the BIG work of trying to unravel our conditioning. The thing to understand is that any rebellion from the cultures we were born into wouldn’t have been a possibility cognitively because it was all we knew and because anything different would have been a THREAT to us. What we were being exposed to WAS IT in terms of what reality was for us in those developmental stages of life. 

We were learning the rules of this life game in a very limited way. Because that’s all we had to look at AND that was all our cognition could handle. We needed a rulebook, we needed to know how to behave so that we would be cared for and so that we could get our needs met. This became our foundational perception of right/wrong and reality itself - and the degree to which that foundation was out of alignment with reality would have been the degree to which we started to suffer as we tried to align ourselves with those foundations. 

It’s in these early stages of life where we were got our BASE program - that acceptance = provision. This is KEY to remember because most of the false Matrix that we have built into our lives comes from this foundational misunderstanding that it is THROUGH external acceptance ONLY that we get what we want and need. That we have a 'middle man' between ourselves and reality - other people and their approval.

It’s in these early stages of life that we were learning what reality IS and what WE must be in order to live within it. We learned here how to reject what feels good and how to accept what feels bad in order to be loved and therefore safe. It’s in these early stages of life that we were given our framework for HOW to assess information, how to make choices, how to figure out what to accept and what to reject - and all of this is mixed in with our fundamental nature, perceptions, ways of processing and so on.

This culture that we’re absorbing again is a result of generations upon generations making subtle shifts to our awareness, making shifts to the systems that are labeled ‘best practice’, adjusting ourselves to the ever changing climate of reality and society and what was and wasn’t seen as advantageous at any given time. Due to the fact that reality and society are constantly evolving, this usually means that whatever we’re handed as ‘the right way’ to be is already obsolete in many ways - and this always causes tension, conflict and confusion. 

Again, we must understand that we all learned that to fit in = being safe, and we all have these filters on our perception that stop us from seeing anything outside of what we were born and raised into, or that cause us to see anything different as 'bad' or 'dangerous' in some way.

Our Adult Experience Of The Matrix:

Thus, by the time we enter adulthood, most of us are simply doing our best to live up to the expectations of those around us. The expectations of those around us are based on their understanding of how to be in order to have the most success in life. Those understandings are limited and false in many ways, which means that it hurts to follow along and yet to rebel is dangerous.

We rarely have a view of other options, and most of the time any part of ourselves that don’t ‘get in line’ are labeled as flawed and bad, thus turning us against OURSELVES in an effort to keep ourselves alive and well. What we’re raised in gets programmed into our nervous systems as our foundations for safety - and it’s really, really challenging to change that. Then on top of that we're both overtly and covertly TAUGHT to reject, deny, abandon, shame and try to fix every part of self that DOESN'T fit into culture. THIS again is one of those foundational 'Matrix' programs we carry around. The idea that if we can't be 'normal' that WE are bad and must fix ourselves.

This can't be over-stated.

When we have pain in the face of our conditioning, we've ALL been trained to doubt and question OURSELVES instead of doubting and questioning the status quo. 

This is what keeps most of us stuck in the false Matrix for our entire lives.

Even as we discover that parts of our conditioning aren’t serving to actually make our lives objectively better - we will unconsciously be ‘attracted’ to those imprinted patterns and ways of being because they are familiar to us and this familiarity reads as safety.

Our brains and bodies crave familiarity - even uncomfortable or downright painful familiarity - because we know how to navigate and survive within those conditions.

Different may be objectively better - but it takes time and energy to get used to the new way and it’s usually incredibly uncomfortable.

We will seek out what is familiar to us even if what’s familiar hurts, because it reads as ‘safety’ to our bodies. Newness will always read as a threat in the beginning, and getting over that hurdle is HARD.

Most of us spend the rest of our lives (usually) trying to fix, modify, change or otherwise remedy these ‘bad’ parts that don’t fit into the cultural molds we’ve been taught. This is generally because not only are the ways we’ve been taught are ‘right’ are the ways we find our security, alternative points of view are almost always presented to us as being wrong, bad, scary or otherwise ‘evil.’ The conditioning we’re brought up in is reinforced with indoctrination. Indoctrination that tells us that anything outside of what is ‘normal’ to us will ruin us. This quest for the familiar and this desire to believe that if we JUST live up to expectation PERFECTLY we will FINALLY be happy is what drives most of us and our behaviors. Because we all have pain, and that pain is being explained as a result of OUR failing to do 'the system' right. Which gives us the hope that if we DO the system right, we will have RELIEF from pain. This is how we operate. Then again, anything outside of our conditioning will have been demonized in some way, as a way of bolstering this idea that if we follow OUR RIGHT system PERFECTLY that we will be safe. As a way of discounting other systems so that we don't have to deal with the existential crisis of considering that we may be WRONG about what the 'right' system is.

Each religion demonizes all other religions. Most political parties fill their followers with fear about alternative viewpoints and how those viewpoints will lead to the downfall of society. Countries indoctrinate their people into believing that any other political system/way of life that’s being practiced in other countries is the REASON those countries have all the big, scary problems they have. Those who are educated are taught to look down on those who don’t have a formal education as being less than evolved. All of this is taught to us as a way of keeping us ‘on course’ no matter how much we may be suffering, because we’re trained to believe that anything different will only be WORSE.

On top of all of this, our minds are going to be constantly looking to ‘prove’ our conditioning right, because in so doing we make ourselves feel like we have a true understanding of how the world works, and with that true understanding we can then navigate this world successfully. We again are going to subconsciously be filtering out all information that contradicts our world view while enhancing any evidence that supports our world view as a way of trying to keep ourselves from feeling like we may be ‘wrong’ about how things work. Because if we’re wrong - this isn’t just about being afraid to admit error. When we discover that we’re ‘wrong’ about how reality works/when we see that our base assumptions about reality and how things ‘should be’ aren’t correct - we then have to re-jigger our entire lives to adjust for a new perspective.

We then have to OPEN to the UNKNOWN because most of the time when we discover that our vantage point of reality isn’t correct, we don’t automatically see alternative options that work as a replacement - rather we see NOTHING or other options we’ve been trained to view as WRONG. We step into the unknown when we start to dismantle our conditioning, and this can leave us feeling like we don’t know how to LIVE. It will lead to a state of existential crisis and deep feelings of insecurity - literally feeling like we don’t know how to make sense of the world around us OR how to navigate within it - and thus, our minds constantly fight this with a perceptual filter. That which matches the conditioning is collected and stored, that which doesn’t is either ignored or explained away via an explanation that matches our conditioning. 

So our bodies are programmed, our biology will continually seek that which is familiar over that which may be better, our perceptions are programmed, how we’re taught to view reality is programmed, and all alternative perspectives are generally painted as harmful in some way. 

We’re taught to wage war with ourselves when we don’t ‘fit in’ rather than embracing ourselves so we can find a way of life that actually works. 

We’re taught not to question authority - or if we do start questioning authority we don’t know how to do it in a pragmatic way, and usually end up swinging into rebellion vs. looking for what actual TRUTH is.

We’re each brought up in a specific set of circumstances with a unique blend of familial, cultural, communal, religious, educational, political and socio-economic conditioning that all lends itself to our model of how life ‘should’ be and how ‘we’ should be.

Morality, A HUGE False Matrix:

Finally, our world-views are almost always based on a kind of morality.

A ‘this is what a good person is/does vs. this is what a bad person is/does’ model.

We’re trained to see ourselves as worthy of love, provision, safety and pleasure when we’re ‘good’ and unworthy of these things when we’re ‘bad.’ So much of the time these rules of good and bad don’t actually sync up with real reality, real outcome and real consequence of action. Rather they sync up with the cultural presets that keep the power structures that are in place in their place - or with ideas we've passed on through generations that were born out of lack of scientific understanding of how nature or life works/a lack of awareness around LONG TERM outcome of actions.

Morality - what it means to be a 'good person' differs broadly based on the groups you associate with, but in ALL cases being 'good' usually means fitting in and getting approval, where as being 'bad' means being out-casted, judged and misunderstood.

Due to the fact that our *main* program for safety is that acceptance = provision = safety - most of us will live our entire lives following the 'rules' of our culture to avoid being judged/misunderstood in order that we can feel SAFE.

This means we ignore consequences, we ignore actual outcomes of actions, we ignore pain and suffering when it's caused BY the very things we're trained make us 'good' and we will ignore the pain and suffering that comes from avoiding that which we've been trained to believe is 'bad'.

We can get caught living lives that are extremely painful - being told over and over again that the 'reward' for such a life is off in the distance - when we get rich, when we finally have success, when we die and pass on to the promised land of the afterlife - all because we're programmed to prioritize fitting in over true pain and pleasure.

This is part of how morality sideswipes us and keeps us locked in patterns and ways of being that harm not only our personal selves, but that contribute to systems that cause massive damage to the broader community - and have no idea we're doing it.

This is partly why we spend SO MUCH TIME blaming and shaming ourselves when we don't fit in, instead of questioning if fitting in is REALLY the best thing in terms of outcome.

We're trained to be 'moral' and by 'moral' what we usually mean is compliant to a system that keeps everyone behaving in a way that allows for those at the top to profit off of the backs of everyone else - trained to believe that THIS is what it is to be GOOD and that THIS will offer us REWARD in some future time and space.

We suffer, think it's our fault, constantly chase approval and live in fear of rejection - never realizing that truth is right there, waiting for us to FEEL it and to seek for it outside of what others 'want us' to do/be.

Not all systems are wrong, but if they are causing you to reject yourself - THAT'S when it's time to question them.

As an adult, acceptance is no longer the ONE thing you have to have in order to survive. That was true in childhood, but it's NOT true in adulthood. That first program needs to be challenged in order to live a truly healthy adult life.

Our sense of morality has been hijacked by connecting it to our sense of safety, and it’s wired through the cultural conditioning we’re living in so that we’re set up to continually monitor ourselves, working to keep ourselves in line with systems that outright harm us, because we’re seeking safety WITHIN the system via living up to its expectation of us. We have a base program that if we’re hurting/suffering it’s because WE are deserving of that pain on some level - we’ve done something wrong or we ARE wrong that normal does work for us. 

Which means that even when we start to try to unpack what ‘the Matrix’ is vs. what 'the Matrix' isn’t - we find ourselves in loops of confusion because our base program is set to have us reject ourselves vs questioning what hurts, validating our hurt and exploring what’s really going on and why. We all default to blaming ourselves or feeling like there’s nothing we can do - and THAT is what keeps us stuck.

We’re trained to be our own prison guards, if you will.

The reality that each of us have an individual Matrix that we’re working with inside of a general culture that supports us staying in that 'Matrix' means that no matter how many times someone tries to ‘tell you’ what the 'Matrix' is and how to get out of it - you’re likely never going to really ‘get it’ and be able to design a life that works well for YOU because you haven’t learned the foundational tools for figuring out what does and doesn't work, what is and isn’t truth and how to build something different than what we already have. 

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