Hello Love Bug!
Last week we started our talk on WHY looking at pain and suffering does not CREATE it, nor does it make it worse. We talked about why those in the 'love and light' community have such a resistance to calling out pain and injustice, why we want to 'positive focus' our way into a love and light world, and why this won't work.
Today let's dive into solutions, so we can know that our spirituality is actually making the world a better place.
The Shadow Around Speaking Truth To Darkness:
First, integration of these two aspects within ourselves.
We of course need to internally recognize that both the victim and the abuser within us are suffering because of the systems humans have created. Most of us have been suffering our whole lives with our own traumas, and again have been born into a SYSTEM, a WORLD that both set us up to be victimized as well as set us up to be victimizers. Both of these aspects of self need to be brought into the light. Seen for what they are - hurting and traumatized parts.
This is where the practices of self love come in.
We must be willing to face both of these in ourselves without shame and guilt. To see that they are based on SYSTEMS we didn't choose, systems no human really 'chose' but that were born of IGNORANCE and FEAR. We can and do know better now. We can LEARN from this. We can CHANGE without this meaning that we were inherently EVIL before. This is the reconciliation.
Can we change our behaviour, especially the abusive behaviour, without that MEANING we were inherently EVIL? We must let go of the judgements. Humans are not evil or good. We have the capacity for destruction and the capacity for evolution. We posses self awareness and pattern recognition which gives us the ability to CHOOSE which path we want to walk. But part of TRUE self empowerment is to recognize where we are ABUSERS right now, due to our traumas, and where we can LOVE those parts of self into SAFETY, so that they can LEARN what they want and need, and how to get those needs met in BETTER ways. This is how we evolve the abuser in ourselves. No shame and blame. Just witnessing, understanding then changing to serve everyone.
You Aren't Going To Change The Whole System, But The System Will Change Because Of You:
We are one.
And as individuals we have individual power to choose for ourselves the liberation of ALL through our actions (what liberates us truly liberates all) or victimizes ALL thought trying to be a victimizer (what victimizes one victimizes all, including ourselves).
Inner work. Outer work. Depends on the day, circumstance and time. There is no 'right way' - just the path that calls for different things at different times.